A FB post I had to share

I don't Facebook much.  I find it difficult to use (I know, I know, tech incompetent!)

I sometimes have a browse to see what people are doing.  Often their posts are conversational.  Sometime just inane.

However, I was quite taken by this post below (and thank you Mon for giving me permission to blogpost it!).

Before you read it: I don't really know Mon, she is a friend of a friend.  I also don't know much about her background, although from this post you could guess a bit.

I am saddened that there are people who read her posts and make negative comments. What she is saying is important to her. Many of her previous posts are upbeat and instructional and positive.  Her posts may also be important to other people, going through similar situations.  

Congratulations for what you wrote Mon.  You have a beautiful life attitude and a shiny outlook to what could be a real downer.  

Mons FB posting:  'I have a number of friends and acquaintances my age who, like myself, have chronic medical conditions, but who have folded up and stopped honouring their bodies with exercise and healthy food, according to their capacity and means. These women are dying in front of my eyes, developing additional chronic illness due to misuse and disuse of their bodies.I don't advocate extremism, obsessive behaviour, or expect anyone to follow my example. But I DO recognise the importance of staying active and eating mindfully in order for me to remain functional physically, mentally and emotionally. These posts are my reminder to myself to keep going, when I'd rather fold too.I'm not finger-pointing, just keeping myself on track. If you're challenged by me -- great! If you're threatened, annoyed or nauseated by my posts -- these are your reactions and I have no input into them.' From FB written by Mon Edgewater Lukas

(Borrowed moniker) - Things I love Thursdays (on Friday)

I am running around, working too much,  tired, stressing the small stuff, feeling transient and wandering aimlessly (sounds worse than it is, no panic).

Things seem impossible and too hard when I am in this frame of mind.  My dosha is unbalanced and I am not feeling my healthiest, best or brightest.  

A blog I follow; 'Gala Darling' has given me a jolt of guilt.

Gala, in her wisdom, reminded everyone to write a gratitude list.  She even offered the use of her moniker 'Things I love Thursday' (one day late for me!).

So, that is what I am going to do now, compile a list of what is good in my life today, not what is less than perfect.

I am grateful for: 

My loving family, (who I don't see as often as I want to)
My tolerant, wonderful friends - you know who you are
My dog, who loves me unconditionally, even if I am too tired to walk her
The sunny day outside, which I am going to walk in when I finish this posting - even though it is cold and windy
Porridge and honey.  
Two girls in a hot pink car (envy!) wearing outrageous beanies and singing and bopping to a song on the radio 
My sea change - which is waiting for me to return to..........

What are you grateful for today?  Let me know. 

45 Things I Know at 45 (That I Didn't Know at 25) by Liz Sanders

Trawling through some blogs I came across this check list of things we learn by the time we get older (unless we are the person in # 13, 15, 22 who wouldn't care anyway).

My favs?  #3, 12 (of course), 14, 37, 42 and 45.

1. It’s not all about you.
2. Life is a boomerang. What you put out there eventually comes back to you.
3. You’re only as bad-ass as you allow yourself to be. Stop waiting for permission.
4. Living someone else’s dream will surely kill your chance of living yours. Don’t do it.
5. Dimming your light to make others feel more comfortable doesn’t serve you. Or them.
6. Don’t worry so much about what other people think about you. They’re usually thinking about themselves, anyway.
7. Feelings are temporary and always changing. Wait 24 hours before you make the call or hit “send.”
8. Fast friendships are usually fleeting. Lifelong friendships take years to build.
9. People and relationships are in our lives for a reason. Either a lesson or a blessing.
10. Another person will never complete you. Only you can do that.
11. Boyfriends and husbands are lovely. Close girlfriends are gold.
12. Chocolate makes everything better.
13. Minimize or eliminate time with people who drain you. Instead, spend time with those who love, support and care for you.
14. You must use your voice, speak up and speak out. No one will do it for you.
15. You’ll never change a narcissist or a hater, so direct your energy elsewhere.
16. People do things for their reasons, not yours. Don’t take it personally. (Thanks, Dad.)
17. Stop comparing yourself to others. It’s more than ok to be an original. In fact, it’s preferable.
18. No amount of designer handbags or shoes is going to make you happy in the long run.
19. The same goes for chocolate chip cookies.
20. Get over yourself. The next time you find yourself having a pity party, ask, “how can I be of service to someone in need?”
21. Use the good china.
22. Never trust anyone who is unkind to animals. Or rude to the waiter.
23. Good skin is one part genetics and two parts preventative care, so wear sunscreen. Daily.
24. If diets worked, we wouldn’t have an obesity epidemic. Focus on your health and you’ll never have to worry about your weight.
25. Get some physical exercise every day. See #24.
26. Your mind and body are the same: what you put in is what comes out.
27. Nobody really loves you for the size of your waistline.
28. Worrying about something that might happen is wasted energy.
29. Black and white is an illusion. Life is gray.
30. Forgiveness is hard work, but it’s the only path to peace.
31. Go within. Your spiritual muscles need exercise as much as your physical ones do.
32. You can’t completely eliminate fear, but you can learn to manage it.
33. 95% of the time, fear is a sign post for growth.
34. The joy of mastery resides on the other side of fear.
35. It hurts more NOT to do it.
36. Money likes to be paid attention to. If you’re not paying attention, it will wreak havoc in your life.
37. A family isn’t just something you’re born into, it’s something you create.
38. Don’t just take their word for it. Question authority, do your research and know your rights.
39. Don’t believe everything you think.
40. Small minds focus on problems. Big thinkers focus on solutions.
41. Doing epic shit is hard work.
42. It’s easy to be mediocre. Extraordinary takes balls.
43. 98% of people are on the path of least resistance. Forging your own path is revolutionary.
44. You don’t know until you know.
45. Love is the answer.

SELF BELIEF AND SELF SUCCESS ... “I CAN DO THAT”

Because I am feeling self-empowered and ‘in control’ today (and don’t we all know there are days when this doesn’t happen – a good night’s sleep does wonders!) I have borrowed a posting from the GalaDarling blog (thank you Gala) and paraphrased it.  It is ringing true for me. I hope you enjoy reading it.

We are all responsible for our own moods. Someone else may be rude, cruel, petty or downright disgusting — but how it affects us is up to us. We can choose to let it “ruin” our day, or we can choose to rise above. It is your choice. When this happens, take a moment to simply remember that the only thing you can control is your own behaviour.

When you let someone else “ruin” your day, you are effectively giving them the power to run your life. 

If you want something to change, it is up to you. If you look around at your life & feel dissatisfied with your relationship, your job, what you’re eating or how messy your home is, it is totally & 100% on YOU to change that. While you may like to shift the blame, tell other people that it’s “their job”, or ignore it & hope it goes away, the only answer is to

CHANGE IT YOURSELF.

“Wishing things were different is the definition of suffering.”

If your best friend is enraging you, TALK to her! If you keep bickering with your spouse, figure out new ways of communicating that are based on love & respect. If your job makes you want to rip out every hair on your head, start looking around for something else — or start doing something in your spare time which makes you really happy. We have to take ownership of our lives.

You have the power to create your life. Our generation spends too much time consuming & not enough time creating. Instead ....  Go out & make it happen!

Nothing is perfect — & nothing is ever really finished. It’s easy to look at someone else’s life & think that everything is wonderful all the time. Additionally, it’s all too easy to fall into the trap of thinking, ‘Once I get to that next stage, I can rest.’ It’s not like that!

You might think that once you get married you can stop thinking about romance, spontaneity & improving your communication skills. (You’d be so wrong.)

(My note: what have you done today that showed the person you love that you love them? Well? ...... Nothing?...... Go out and do something!!!!!! Now....).

You might think that when you find that best friend who is perfect for you, you can slack off on phone calls, lunches or keeping in touch.

(My note: back to my first blog about self affirmation and life planning ... staying true to ones self ... not changing the way you are because sometimes it is easier to be complacent or hibernate. P.S.Writing a comment on my blog will let me know if you are reading!)

Everything is an opportunity for growth. 

Everything — yes, EVERYTHING —  the phone calls from telesales during dinner or sending an inappropriate word in a txt, — is a chance to evolve, get better, rise above. You can choose the low road — anger, frustration, muttering below your breath, clenching your jaw, yelling, huffing, storming around in a rage — or you can decide to take the high road. Take a deep breath. Smile. Forgive. Practice empathy & compassion. Getting pissed off doesn’t change your situation!

 (My note: love the quote below)

“Life is not the way it’s supposed to be. It’s the way it is. The way you deal with it is what makes the difference.” (Virginia Satir)

Love to you all

xxxx