Because I am feeling self-empowered and ‘in control’ today (and don’t we all know there are days when this doesn’t happen – a good night’s sleep does wonders!) I have borrowed a posting from the GalaDarling blog (thank you Gala) and paraphrased it. It is ringing true for me. I hope you enjoy reading it.
We are all responsible for our own moods. Someone else may be rude, cruel, petty or downright disgusting — but how it affects us is up to us. We can choose to let it “ruin” our day, or we can choose to rise above. It is your choice. When this happens, take a moment to simply remember that the only thing you can control is your own behaviour.
When you let someone else “ruin” your day, you are effectively giving them the power to run your life.
If you want something to change, it is up to you. If you look around at your life & feel dissatisfied with your relationship, your job, what you’re eating or how messy your home is, it is totally & 100% on YOU to change that. While you may like to shift the blame, tell other people that it’s “their job”, or ignore it & hope it goes away, the only answer is to
CHANGE IT YOURSELF.
“Wishing things were different is the definition of suffering.”
If your best friend is enraging you, TALK to her! If you keep bickering with your spouse, figure out new ways of communicating that are based on love & respect. If your job makes you want to rip out every hair on your head, start looking around for something else — or start doing something in your spare time which makes you really happy. We have to take ownership of our lives.
You have the power to create your life. Our generation spends too much time consuming & not enough time creating. Instead .... Go out & make it happen!
Nothing is perfect — & nothing is ever really finished. It’s easy to look at someone else’s life & think that everything is wonderful all the time. Additionally, it’s all too easy to fall into the trap of thinking, ‘Once I get to that next stage, I can rest.’ It’s not like that!
You might think that once you get married you can stop thinking about romance, spontaneity & improving your communication skills. (You’d be so wrong.)
(My note: what have you done today that showed the person you love that you love them? Well? ...... Nothing?...... Go out and do something!!!!!! Now....).
You might think that when you find that best friend who is perfect for you, you can slack off on phone calls, lunches or keeping in touch.
(My note: back to my first blog about self affirmation and life planning ... staying true to ones self ... not changing the way you are because sometimes it is easier to be complacent or hibernate. P.S.Writing a comment on my blog will let me know if you are reading!)
Everything is an opportunity for growth.
Everything — yes, EVERYTHING — the phone calls from telesales during dinner or sending an inappropriate word in a txt, — is a chance to evolve, get better, rise above. You can choose the low road — anger, frustration, muttering below your breath, clenching your jaw, yelling, huffing, storming around in a rage — or you can decide to take the high road. Take a deep breath. Smile. Forgive. Practice empathy & compassion. Getting pissed off doesn’t change your situation!
(My note: love the quote below)
“Life is not the way it’s supposed to be. It’s the way it is. The way you deal with it is what makes the difference.” (Virginia Satir)
Love to you all